I am a 29-year old man. I have been in a relationship but
distance is separating me from my love who is now living
in a far-away state. I get tempted to date other women
but couldn't bring myself to do it. I cannot cheat on my
love because we love each other and hope to re-unite
very soon. We have vowed to live together and not
betray each other. Although we are not yet married, we
are keeping it in view and besides, she is a good
woman. But I masturbate and it worries me. Can one get
any form of sickness from masturbating because I feel
drained after engaging in the act?
---------Dominic, Lagos
Dear Dominic,
A lot of people feel guilty after masturbating and some
see it as cheating on their partner even though the act
does not involve another sex partner. Besides, there is
perceived spiritual dirtiness associated with the act. But
the wonderful thing about masturbation is that you can't
catch a disease from yourself (or we must already have
the disease). Sexually transmitted infections (STI) have to
be caught from someone who has the infection. They
spread by rubbing of skin-to-skin or transferring of body
fluid in sex with a partner. This is a reason why condoms
protect because they prevent body fluid going from
partner to another and reduce skin-to-skin contact.
Touching ourselves for pleasure with masturbation is
something most people do especially if they don't have a
sexual partner. It's natural to feel some pent-up sexual
frustration and masturbation can relieve that. There has
been a lot of fears and claims that masturbation was bad
or a risk. But this has usually been a moral or religious
view that it is wrong to masturbate.
Herpes has to be caught from someone who has it. What
might confuse people is that herpes is usually around
the mouth but can be spread to the genitals by touch or
oral sex. But we don't usually spread our own herpes
further because our body has made antibodies to
control the virus that causes herpes.
(VANGUARD)
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